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Chris · Posted: Tue Jan 07, 2003 9:57 pm

Caught my gf kissing another guy at a bar (make out kissing).... Sad

now I got to break up with her

Really liked her too....why do people cheat on others? Why can't they just figure out if they want a relationship or one night stands .....

oh well... Confused

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Rat · Posted: Tue Jan 07, 2003 10:15 pm

*patpats Chris*
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Ragnarok · Posted: Tue Jan 07, 2003 10:49 pm

What Rat said.
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All i gotta say is: bad choice! A good choice would never do dumb sh*t like that hehe.

I know, i've seen it in the movie. Titanic.

paranoid? · Posted: Tue Jan 07, 2003 11:38 pm

woman are smart enough to be vicious, and men.....well man are smart enough to be dumb.

All I have to say is.....even if you still have feelings for her don't take her back.....the most you could ever do....is forgiving her in time...but do not take her back....she could end up doing it again.
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Impaler · Posted: Tue Jan 07, 2003 11:51 pm

Bachelorhood is good.
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faustgfx · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 6:23 am

sitting alone at home hating the world is good.
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Gort · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 6:31 am

Bummer dude - don't waste your time any longer. How old are you? What about her? Are either of you really ready for a "lock down"?

Quit while you can, be diplomatic, back out and move on to better things. She has clearly illustrated an unwillingness to committment.
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Rat · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 7:24 am

Don't yell at her. It may just be the last thing you do...

Least it would be if she were me. *is female (just to let everyone know...AGAIN)*
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Chris · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 8:57 am

Drunken Monkey · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 9:48 am

she is the devil!

Intuos · member Member # Joined: 29 Oct 2000 Posts: 182

I hate cheaters - men and women alike. I don't understand it, and I find it pathetic and heartless.

I've seen friends (guys) cheat on the girlfriends, and I basically disassociate myself with them. I think it's a scummy thing to do. I also have female friends who I've seen cheat on their boyfriends, whom I just bitchslap. Not really of course, but I don't associate with them any longer either.

Fucking cheaters. They aren't worth your time. In fact, they're wastes of space.

Gort · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 10:08 am

22 and 20...

Trying to engage in a long term with anyone at that age is risky in my opinion; I did it, and I can honestly say it was the biggest waste of my life. I committed a lot, and in the end I was left with nothing but a broken heart and a big ol' bag of regret. Now that was me; some folks might have a different experience. If I could go back in time and start over I would certainly have done it differently; if I really wanted a relationship, then I would have been more selective and patient in my endeavor.

So she was plastered? Once again - my opinion - you don't want to involve yourself with someone that cannot control their urges. How would feel if she said she was going out for a night on the town "with the girls"? Chances are she might end up with someone else besides "the girls".

Remember you're not married, so you have an uber-degree of freedom. Use it wisely, young padawan.

At this age in your life you should look after yourself. Get your life on and get busy living. My opinion. Then when the dust has settled and you're standing tall, get serious about finding someone special.

My opinion.
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Chris · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 10:52 am

Thanks Tom, I agree w/ ya there Smile

I know it was risky...but I gave it a shot anyway.
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xXxPZxXx · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 2:53 pm

sorry not my thread but, Thanks Tom!

Wise advice

shawnhud · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 2:59 pm

yo...fake like you don't know, bang her one last time, then break up. That's the hardest part of breaking up in my opinion, is the sudden cut off of sex. If you bang her one last time knowing it's the last time, then you'll be straight for a while until you meet someone else.
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Andromeda · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 3:30 pm

Andromeda · Posted: Wed Jan 08, 2003 3:31 pm

edit:double posted
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Atherium · Posted: Fri Jan 10, 2003 12:36 am

the best is walking in on your girl and her boss in your shower post sex and trying everything in your power not to go downstairs and grab a butcher knife.

If I got over that lol, you'll get over her.

edraket · Posted: Fri Jan 10, 2003 1:44 am

I don't get why people enter relationships without being honest. I know that sounds kind of simple... But really... what is the benefit of a relationship when you are shielding half of your life away from your partner? Why be in a "steady" relationship when you want to fuck around?

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[ edit - actually, I'm not that pessimistic and cynical ]

seburo · Posted: Fri Jan 10, 2003 2:30 am

Jabberwocky · Posted: Sat Jan 11, 2003 3:35 pm

I'm just going to tell you what my ex's mother told me.

Lunatique · Posted: Sat Jan 11, 2003 7:08 pm

Can any of you still stay together with your GF/BF/husband/wife after he/she cheated on you(as in, had sex, not just kissing)? Or, let's make it more complicated--how about if it was just sex, and no feelings involved at all? Or, it's feelings involved, but no sex or kissing at all?

One of my ex cheated on me. She was this French chick that looked like Juliet Binoche. Afterwards, I tried to forgive her, but neither one of us could go on after what had happened.

Cheating is a sure sign that the person is:

a)confused and doesn't know what he/she really want.

b)you're not the one he/she really want. He/she is just settling and wants to move on.

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c) a slut

glody · Posted: Sun Jan 12, 2003 5:17 am

^^^^^^^^^ haha....usually c. Razz

ummm ya know...finding that kinda stuff out is always shocking....not something you want to keep reliving in ones life...i can totally understand that....like anything in life man...you gotta take it as a learning experience, pick up from where your at and just trudge forward...plenty o ladies out there for a man like yourself to enjoy...youll find the right one eventually.....even if it takes quite a few tries...the one at the end you know will be the best outta the bunch!! Wink

keep your head up Smile

[666]Flat · Posted: Sun Jan 12, 2003 6:06 am

It wasn't me!�
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Jabberwocky · Posted: Sun Jan 12, 2003 9:34 pm

I'm not sure if I could take someone back if they cheated on me. My ex said he was loyal to me, but the weekend after we broke up he took his Ex, before me, to the place him and I use to go for weekend get aways. He said nothing happened, but while we were dating my friends use to tell me him and her still had something going on more "than friend". And their friends told me things about what they've done.

Plus he started hanging out with some S*%&$^... Which he even told me she kissed him before we broke up. But has nothing going on between them cause she has a bf 4 hours away.

It all has to do with the trust. If someone cheats on someone that trust is gone. You'll be spending all the time wondering if they are screwing around on you. Who they are with. What are they are doing. It will begin to consume you. Without that trust, that was once there, it's hard to hold on to a relationship. Some people can over look it.... but most will always have it lerking in the back of there minds.

I'm not sure if I can take my ex back because of that trust issue. I love him and I believe he loves me... with tthe lack of trust we really have nothing. It going to be something he will need to earn back and will take a long time. Right now we're trying to work on the friendship. Who knows maybe he was loyal and I over reacted...
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Chris · Posted: Sun Jan 12, 2003 10:27 pm

Exactly...I still care for her, matter of fact I found out that I can't really stand to be around her right now. I care for her that much that it kills that she did that. Maybe it will change and I hope so, cause we hang around a lot of the same people Confused

But for now I can't be around her, I actually feel better when she isn't in my view Wink

You're right though, there is no way I could ever trust her again and if she came back I wouldn't take her. I think someone said it above, when she goes out with her friends, how could I even know if she would be cheating again. And that is what I would be thinking (in the back of my mind) and I shouldn't really need to think about that Confused

We did break up though...so now I'm just moving on. Thanks for letting me vent here though guys Wink

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Jabberwocky · Posted: Sun Jan 12, 2003 11:12 pm

Hey Chris... You're single... I'm Single... Hint Hint Laughing

J/K

Trust me I know what you're going through. You want her there cause you love her, but you don't want to live like that.
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