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Topic : "how do i get out of boring or awkward conversation ?" |
dr . bang member
Member # Joined: 07 Apr 2000 Posts: 1245 Location: Den Haag, Holland
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2001 11:24 pm |
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Sorry, my social skill is completely hopeless. Here's my usual conversation with ppl.
Friend:Hey Bang
Me: hi
Friend:how are you to day?
Me: I'm fine thanks, you?
Friend:I'm fine.
Me: The weather is nice eh
Friends: Yea, it is
Well, I guess its ok to say this the first time but i always run out of what to say in the next time? It can't be every form of question. And also, what do guys usually do when you run out of things to talk about during a short conversation?
Sorry for being stupid, i've never born to be a social person  |
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Lunatique member
Member # Joined: 27 Jan 2001 Posts: 3303 Location: Lincoln, California
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2001 11:37 pm |
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Hmmm, you seem ok on the internet though.
Well, lessee. . ..
I'm not for irrelevent small talk, so I always go for the jugular.
Friends: Hey, what's up?
Me: Not much, how about you?
Friends: same old shit.
Me: Oh yeah? (If friend is single)Met any chicks/guys? (If not)How are things going with (blank)?
That usually opens up a big can of "My relationship is not going well/I'm sick of being single", and then I'd wish I didn't ask.
Or, it's still: Same old shit. He/she's fine.
Then we just stare at each other.
Ok, nevermind. |
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Socar MYLES member
Member # Joined: 27 Jan 2001 Posts: 1229 Location: Vancouver, Canada
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 1:49 am |
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Well, if I'm having the dull conversation on the Internet, I just say 'Oh, rats, would you LOOK at the time? I have to go to school/bed/the store before it closes/the dentist.' Or, if the bore is someone I'll be talking to again soon, I just turn off ICQ, and say my connection died. (To anyone who's been talking to me TODAY, my connection really DID die. Shaw Cable sucks!)
If I'm not on the Internet, I cough, look around, and say 'Oh, I can't breathe. Look, I'm awfully sorry, but you know how it is...my lungs are bothering me again. I have to go home. Right now.' And then I do just that. Or I go somewhere more interesting. Of course, if you don't have lung disease, this probably won't work, but you can probably invent diarrhea, or a nasty cold, or something. Or if you don't like the person that much, just say 'Look, you're a right bore. I've not got time for this.' Myself, I'd rather spare the poor bore's ego, but it's up to you....
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gLitterbug member
Member # Joined: 13 Feb 2001 Posts: 1340 Location: Austria
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 2:02 am |
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Same here, I feel like I�m socially incompatible.
Depends on the people I talk to. In company of some I talk and make one joke after another, but if talking to people I don�t know very well or where I want to make a good impression - I don�t know what to talk about or talk shit. :/ |
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fireheart member
Member # Joined: 15 Apr 2001 Posts: 68 Location: UK
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 2:48 am |
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Yup I'm the same. People I know I'm usually okay with. With people I don't know I get nervous, garble my words, sometimes stutter and usually run out of things to say very quickly.
Generally the only things I can think to say to people I don’t know too well is to ask them questions (How’s it going? How's life treating you? etc). Although by asking lots of questions I worry that I may come across as being nosy / rude or interrogating them too much.
*Sigh*  |
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wahookah member
Member # Joined: 05 Nov 2000 Posts: 84 Location: Austria
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 3:01 am |
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when i don�t know what to say i�m getting either personal [if i�m interested in conversation] or i just quit conversation by the use of body language [u know placeing of feet, sholders, look, expression,..], which i consider way more polite than saying meanless phrases
getting personal means that i tell something private to lead the person to a more private level of conversation, avoiding phrases. i also spit out pieces of topics that go through my head all over the day and confront people with it
i always try to be the more passive part of the conversation, just giving some waypoints...and then just let it flow, don�t think too much about what to say, be intuitive
there�s no recipe for communication, try to overcome your inhibitions and do it, everytime you see a possibility
not an easy topic |
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DRAGooN of deranged member
Member # Joined: 22 Mar 2001 Posts: 112 Location: markersbach, germany
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 3:12 am |
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friend: hey!
me: ...
friend: whatsup?
me: ...
friend: come on, tell me!
me: shut the fuck up, i don't wanna talk about it!
friend: ...
me: sorry..
friend: it's okay
me: fuck you |
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ceenda member
Member # Joined: 27 Jun 2000 Posts: 2030
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 3:32 am |
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Friend: Hi
Me: Cop this ya stooky-un Jimmy!!!
*head-butts friend*
Friend: AAAAAARGH! WTF???
Me: Aye right, yer maw!
*head-butts friend again*
Friend: Wait there!
My case comes up in July. |
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v1510nAry member
Member # Joined: 31 Dec 2000 Posts: 611 Location: London , England
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 3:50 am |
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Friend: hello m8
Me: Alright
Friend: Hows things going
Me: Ok, u know something
Friend: What
Me: you know u have a pretty nice ass
Friend: Wha..
Me: Can I squeeze it
(Friend Then runs away)
Thats how i normal get out a converaation with boys, unless hes gay.
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baerb junior member
Member # Joined: 11 Jan 2001 Posts: 40 Location: -[51�05' north; 13�50' east]-
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 4:16 am |
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Social skills? - What's that?
Haven't even met more than two souls within the last 48 hours ... STOP! ... Do animals count? |
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MrPumpernickel member
Member # Joined: 17 Mar 2001 Posts: 291 Location: Boden, Sweden
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 5:07 am |
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I guess many as me have more asocial skills than social
But if the conversation is really constipated (especially with another man) I've been known just to walk away without excuses. With females on the other hand I'm more polite and at least TRY to come up with an excuse of some sort...blame my upbringing why don't you
[ June 17, 2001: Message edited by: MrPumpernickel ] |
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Brainswitch member
Member # Joined: 11 Apr 2001 Posts: 112 Location: Maine, USA
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 8:12 am |
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three little letters:
AFK
As for real life, two little words:
Pointy Stick |
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Impaler member
Member # Joined: 02 Dec 1999 Posts: 1560 Location: Albuquerque.NewMexico.USA
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2001 11:36 pm |
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quote: Originally posted by dr. bang:
Me: The weather is nice eh
Heheheh. See, it's funny because you're Canadian and stuff.
The easiest way to get out of a conversation is to talk more than they do, and talk loudly with little anunciation ability. And say Hey and Fuck and much as possible.
They: Yo.
Me: HEY WHAT AH YOU DOING I'M FUCK JUT STAN'IN' HERE TALKIN' TO YOU BUT I GUESS YOU KNOW THAT? EH? HEHEHEHEHEHE. SO IT CLOUDY AND (MUMBLES SOMETHING AUDIBLY INCOMPREHENSIBLE) FUCK. HEY IT'S NICE TALKING TO YOU IT'S 4:00 FUCK HEY WHAT YOU BEEN FUCK UP TO?
They: Uh.. uh. not much. you?
Me: HEY FUCK I JUST BEEN ON THE FUCK HEY COMPUTER, YOU KNOW, A LIL' BIT O' DIS AN' DAT FUCK, YOU KNOW I MEAN? HEY FUCK YOU GOTTED PHO'SHOP YET HEY? FUCK YOU PROLLY DO HEY YOU TRY THAT FUCK NEW FILTER FUCK YET?
They: *left 2 minutes ago* |
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